After the
opening invocation and pledge, every floor session
in Montana’s legislature begins with various members
introducing home town folks gathered in the gallery
above the chamber. In the six years I have served,
almost no citizens of my district have visited the
capitol during the session. I jokingly told my
seatmate, if I didn’t see a constituent pretty soon,
I was going to start introducing all my imaginary
friends. Friday, March 18th, we heard three moving
straight-from-the-heart introductions, but it was
the silent fourth one which sticks with me. I’ll
explain.
The separation of legislators from their loved ones
pales in comparison to the sacrifice made by our
armed forces deployed overseas. Our engagement is
but four months, theirs is measured in years.
Nonetheless, it still hurts.
Representative Gordon Hendrick rose first to
introduce Vicky, whom with he would celebrate his
40th anniversary on Sunday. His voice cracked with
emotion as he stared up at his beloved wife seated
in the gallery. Gordon’s words started a cascade of
spouse introductions.
Representative Bob Wagner stood next; his wedding
anniversary was this week as well. His wife,
Christy, was not present during this introduction
but he wanted proof on the record and in the
journal, he did properly ask his high school
sweetheart to marry him. This is a contentious issue
still never settled after 37 years and four kids.
(Apparently Bob, just like me, married his high
school girlfriend while she was still in her early
twenties and didn’t realize she was marrying down.
Last June I had my trophy wife blasting 120 years of
raccoon poop out of the barn loft with a power
washer and after 31 years of marriage, she is still
delusional enough to think this is as good as it
gets.)
Glendive’s Representative Matt Rosendale was the
third to rise. Unlike me being three hours from
home, Matt’s nine hour drive forces him to spend his
weekends in Helena alone. This weekend, however, was
different as up in the gallery sat Jean, his wife of
27 years. Matt is tough. He is unwavering when
facing hostile political fire, but this battle was
different. He pointed up in the gallery and spoke
brokenly. When he reached the part about the mother
of his three children, he dropped his face into his
hands to hold back the tears. Overcome with emotion
and with his sentence forever unfinished, he sat
down.
The fourth introduction, the silent one, came from
vacant seat 31 on the House floor. As the bustle of
the formal session began, I sat and stared at the
empty chair. This is the desk of Anaconda freshman
legislator Kathy Swanson. Kathy has found the
separation from her husband, Butch, to be harder
than she had anticipated. To ease the pain of being
apart, Kathy and Butch religiously phone each
morning at six and then Butch begins his day
teaching high school and Kathy heads to the capitol.
March 3rd their daily routine changed forever.
Kathy called repeatedly that Thursday morning and
Butch never answered. Getting more anxious with each
unanswered ring, she called their next door
neighbors and asked them to check on Butch. They
did. Their knock went unanswered as well, so they
opened the door and found Butch lying on the floor.
For reasons unknown, God had called Butch home.
Kathy was devastated by her loss and her seat has
been empty ever since. We hear word she might return
next week and if she does she is stronger than me.
Knowing that your world back home has been turned
upside down, I don’t know where you find the
strength to re-enter the arena as a citizen
legislator. Suddenly facing the world alone, the
political battle would seem senseless to me.
Keep Kathy’s tragedy in mind and ponder this: As
hard as it is to say goodbye to the person with whom
you have built your life, imagine never having the
chance to do so. This is the perfect opportunity to
reach over and gently cradle the hand of the one who
touches a special place in your heart. Kiss their
forehead and thank God for every single moment you
have shared. Do it now—you may never get another
chance.
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